This blog has followed me from the separation from XH, the relationship with Scott, the cancer diagnosis and subsequent breakup, all the way up to my engagment and wedding planning, and now marriage to Finn.
Good times bad times. This blog has been along for each twist and turn of the ride, and I’m so very grateful to have this outlet.
I’m a 30-something year old mother who walked out on her old life in search of change. We moved in with a 50-something year old man (Scott) who turned it all upside-down. My whole life changed in a week. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
On February 20, 2015, we were told that they found cancerous cells in fluid that was drained from Scott’s left lung. On February 24, 2015, he broke up with me as a result of his diagnosis. He had stage 4 adenocarcinoma, prognosis was anywhere from six months to two years. He passed away in his sleep on August 22, 2016.
On February 28, 2015 I met Finn(not his real name, see “Cast of Characters” page). We had our first date on March 14th, and on March 22, 2015, Finn and I made it official, with the support and encouragement of family and friends. I think my aunt’s reply when we told her we weren’t official was “Why the hell not?”
I lost my mother to lung cancer on August 20th, 2009. My father & I don’t always see eye to eye, but we keep in regular contact. It’s touch and go with my siblings.
I created this blog as an outlet for keeping up with my thoughts.
Things to keep in mind:
I’m fully aware that by putting this out there, I’m subject to judgment (by whomever may read this). Judge all you want, but please keep negative comments to yourself. I won’t approve negative comments.
I’m also fully aware that not everyone will agree with how I went about leaving STBXH. It is what it is. Scott knew the situation, had the means to help and offered it.
I’m blunt when I write, and rarely hold back. This blog may get a little TMI at times, but I’ll always post a warning, along with a break.
For the sake of anonymity, I’m not posting my friends real names, nor will I post any pictures of myself, my boys or my friends.